The Relationship Report – “You Need To Get A Divorce”

Steven James Dixon September 12, 2011 Comments

The average man and woman will not be successful at marriage. The institution of marriage is the most difficult institution to graduate from. In an institution, average is a score of 75%. The divorce rate is 50% so that means that from 1% to 50% of marriages are bad. From 51% to 75% of marriages are average. That 51% to 75% of marriages consist of the average man and the average woman. This means two things:

1.  In order to be happily married, you will need to be an above average spouse and you will need to marry an above average spouse.

2.  Three out of four married couples need to get a divorce. You are making the institution of marriage look bad. There is nothing wrong with the institution of marriage there is something wrong with husband and/or there is something wrong with the wife. Being an average spouse is not working for marriage. Average is good for the single life. Go do that.

I am sick of people talking about marriage as if they are unhappy simply because they formed a legal union. All you did was sign your name on the dotted line. The institution of marriage has done you no harm. It is nerve racking to consistently hear people say “all of the married people are unhappy.” I am disgusted by the people who get a divorce and then say that they will never marry again. Marriage did not fail you, you failed at marriage. Let me be clear on my stance on the new found craze called “Open Marriage.” The people who started that crap are going to hell. An Open Marriage is called “Dating.” Keep your boyfriend or girlfriend title and don’t get married. Don’t do us any favors. Our fraternity of happily married folks reject your submission of membership. It is people like you who are making the institution of marriage look bad. Get a divorce. Go womanize or sleep with multiple men.

I heard Pastor Sean Wilburn in Houston,TX say that marriage is Grown Folks business. Being grown is about being responsible. There is no higher responsibility than living up to your title of Husband or Wife. There is no greater title. There are too many people that pursued and acquired the title, Husband or Wife and now that they got the title they think that other titles are more important. There are too many people trying to be the best doctors, lawyers, rappers and actors and not enough people trying to be the best Husband or be the best Wife. Look here, if you are not willing to put everything that you have into your marriage then you need to get a divorce. Like today! GET OUT OF OUR INSTITUTION! WE DON’T WANT YOU IN OUR FRATERNITY! Get a divorce. Go be average in some other part of your life. Go be like everyone else who quit, gave up and got a divorce. Once we get you divorced and get the divorce rate up to 75% then and only then will marriage be restored as a loving union that people are envious of. Then and only then will people be able to look at the rest of the marriages that are remaining and say to themselves “In order for me to be happily married I am going to have to love as hard as that couple is loving.”

There are too many people married. It’s going to take awhile for everyone to get a divorce that needs to but I want you guys to go ahead and start the paperwork immediately. If you don’t want to show initiative, which is probably one of the reasons why you need to get a divorce, check back on every week for the Divorce List.

Divorce List – List of people who need to get a divorce. I am compiling the list as we speak. If three or more of your family and/or friends say that you need to get a divorce, your name will be added to the Divorce List. This is your last warning. GET OUT OF OUR INSTITUTION BEFORE WE PUT YOU ON BLAST!

Divorce List for the week of September 19, 2011

  1. Keyshawnn & Toelesha Thomas in Shreveport, LA – Toelesha your mother Emma, your father Odell and your niece Sheilta recommended you guys file for a divorce.
  2. Vondrizzy & Fashalonda Johnson in Freeport, NY – Vondre Sr. said that if he was you, he would get a divorce. Kevinna, your mother said that you were stupid to marry Vondre in the beginning and she told you that. Your son needs counseling. He said that both of y’all are cheating right now.
  3. J-Lynn & JayLynnda Smith in Los Angeles, CA- Based on your names alone, you guys should have known that your marriage was not going to last. JayLynnda both your father Jay and your mother Lynnda said, “This is exactly why we didn’t come to the wedding.” J-Lynn your homeboy DeeJay said that JayLynnda was initially his girl at first and you stole her. Additionally he said that your first born is really not your first born. He said that your second born is your first born.
  4. Uncle Robert & Aunt Mary – What you guys did at the family reunion last week was an embarrassment. Uncle Robert, how are you going to bring your girlfriend to the family reunion? Aunt Mary, you did not have pull that lady’s weave off. You guys need to get a divorce.

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  1. jackie says:

    Great column. I would recommend you an an ‘forward’ tag on this screen so readers can send your column to friends via email or as post to their fb pages. Potential for major traffic increasel.

    I actually go a divorce for the very reasons you expound on…i honor marriage and yet, that belief was a singular experience!

    1. The tag is on the left. You can share to Twitter, Facebook or email.

  2. Marcherie says:

    Once again, this column was spot on! People now get married just to flash a ring, and then wonder why they are unhappy. They stay for the kids, the house, the car/s, etc. However, they tend to make one another’s lives miserable. Whatever happend to marrying for love or marrying someone because you truly couldn’t see living life without them by your side. Is that really fairy tale thinking now? SMH! Shame.

  3. Shariff says:

    Everything is open to interpretation, but not sure I agree with this one. I think if we (men) continue to pursue our wives after marriage like we did when we were dating, the unhappiness and divorce rate will go down. Even as life happens (career, kids, etc.) we need to make adjustments so we men (alpha conquering men) can be the husbands our wives saw us as when we were dating and in turn they will be willing to love us openly be loved by us. Communications is a part of this as well. Yes, I put it on the men because we pursued (at least most of us did) and wooed our wives into loving us. So what happened after we got married? Let’s go men, pursue your wife as if you were dating her for the first time. Remember how you wouldn’t take no for an answer. Even if she says no now, keep pursuing until she does. That’s what you did before, let’s all do it again.

    Keep up the great topics, I enjoy them.

    1. Rebecca says:

      Great Article. I think when people get married they do not realize that they are stating VOWS. This is very serious when it comes to saying these VOWS. I think the reason that people say the I Do’s is because most of them believe that this is just part of the ceremony, without giving any other thought about what they are really saying. It means forever whether good, bad, or ugly. Now if the man or woman are abusive then there are grounds for divorce, but both should work on the marriage before they decide divorce especailly if there are children involved.

  4. Melissa says:

    Hi. I have the same remarks/issues as Jackie, no way to post or forward. You really made me re-evaluate my singleness & enjoy me months ago! Too often “society” makes us feel like less of a woman if we’re not married w/ kids by 30 (speaking of self). Keep ’em coming!

  5. mztellis says:

    I found this to be very helpful. I have contemplated divorce more than I like to admit but I hate to feel like I am giving up on anything and that includes my marriage. My parents have been married all my life and I try to use this for my life but definately realized my marriage aint mama marriage and I have to work at mine a little harder and Im trying to see it through.

  6. Tammy says:

    Thanks for waking us up- it is not the institution- it is the people.

  7. Queen says:

    The bottom line is “Why did you get married.” If it was for money or because she is on child number 3 and you have to make this right, maybe because you are just plain tired of being alone and you asked or accepted a proposal by the next thing smoking then it may have been for the wrong reasons. Marriage is about commitment, team work, having the same vision, willing to grow. You can not depend on feelings , they change like the weather! Its seems in my age group “everyone is married and looking to get out.”

  8. Refiloe Rux (@ThisRefiloe_R) says:

    Thank you for a different perspective on things. My opinion is that what God has put together, no man – including Steven James Dixon my put asunder. Yes, not everyone has a great marriage, and considering both said their i do’s it was really good at one point of their lives. Should we rather not help or try to rebuild instead of banishing them completely from the institution? Praying, counselling, alternative therapy, any other constructive method would be better than naming and shaming people who according to the article should divorce. A bit harsh of an approach.

    1. Did you read the article or just watch the video? It is easy to tell that I am joking. First of all, the names are FAKE! Second of all, I don’t even believe in Divorce. I think that all marriages can be saved. The point of the article is to say “Husbands and Wives are not trying hard enough in their marriages. If you are not going to try, then stop making the institution of marriage look bad!” Please look around on my website and you will see a million articles with me supporting the institution of marriage.