What Does Today’s Single Man Think of Today’s Single Woman?

Steven James Dixon April 18, 2011 Comments

I asked men all across the country a very simple question. That question was “What Does Today’s Single Man Think of Today’s Single Woman?” I left the question open ended purposely. I provided no additional direction nor did I shape or mold the commitments. I received the comments by way of Facebook, Twitter and email.


Atlanta: The single woman is not approachable. More so now than ever before a woman knows how much more money an athlete or entertainer makes than me! She wants that money. She is too busy being pretentious to settle down with a regular guy. Society glorifies the woman’s independence so much that the bond between a man and a woman stands very little chance of sustainability.

Chicago: They are so focused on success in the workplace that they are failing on the job at home. Women think that they are men now. I know women that sleep with as many men as I do women. That aint right. I have dated a lot of women in Chicago and I feel like I keep getting the short end of the stick. I just processed a restraining order against a chick the other day.  

Chicago: They act like they can please themselves and don’t need a man.

Dallas: A number of women ARE NOT GOING TO BE SUBMISSIVE. You want a traditional man who takes care of the car, yard, pay the bills, protects and provides but you don’t cook or clean like a traditional woman. The money I make is for bills but the money she makes is for shopping sprees.

Dallas: They are stuck-up here. Bourgeois. They just want to know what type of car I drive, how big my house is and how much money I make or where I work and what do I do.

Detroit:  Women are more independent, but more emotionally scarred. I don’t know if this is why they don’t cook more or what the problem is in the kitchen!

Denver: You watched your mother get beat down after dedicating herself to a man that didn’t care about her. You swore that you would never live her life. Subconsciously you were being taught to love differently. Today’s woman does not love today’s man like my mother or grandmother loved their men.


Houston: Women expect men to be flawless. They expect a man to be delivered to them on a silver platter.  

Houston: I can’t front on the women in Houston. There are some great women down here. They put up with too much crap from men but they are down for their man. I got a new chick every week. Good chicks too. They cook & clean and know how to take care of a man. 

Indianapolis: Too many single women are too eager to please because they are in a rush to get married and their biological clock is ticking really loud. Then there are some who are not willing to please at all because they feel like they don’t need a man for anything so they don’t try. I am 33 so I can understand women in my age range wanting to get married, but a lot of single women my age (especially black women) have filled their lives with so many other things it makes getting a cup of coffee an act of congress.  The thing is women in both categories are selfish. The women I know who have stopped being selfish, are the ones who walked down the isle.

Kansas City: Women here don’t seem to be interested in bettering themselves.  Many young women seem content with having babies and working a basic job, usually something clerk oriented.  Having children seems to be a measure of success.


Now I don’t want to sound like I am bashing the sisters. I love my sisters!  I was fortunate that my new wife approached me. (Didn’t I tell y’all on Monday & Tuesday to start asking men out! Nita you know this guy. No, I am not telling you who it is. You must learn not to mess with Steven James Dixon. He’s a baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaad man!)

Kansas City: The dating scene for the woman here is bad. There are a lot of women frustrated here. The frustration sometimes causes them to be closed minded to what might be a potentially good man. These women end up generally dating outside of their race.  I am seeing that more and more! 

Las Vegas: Men from all over the world come to Vegas to spend money. Vegas women know this. Some of my own homegirls have moved to Vegas and changed. They were nice girls before they got here now they are all about money!

Los Angeles: You have to be in the business, have some money or come by referral to talk to a woman out here. The last woman that I dated I spent too much time trying to justify my financially stability. I don’t date sistahs anymore now.

Los Angeles: If they are not in the business they are cool. No one made me want to marry them. I haven’t been close to that feeling at all.

Miami: Ah . . . I don’t know what women want from me. It changes with every woman that I meet. I been down here 10 years and I still can’t figure them out. I am a lawyer so I get it tossed at me but what is being tossed is sex instead of good woman. Put in The Relationship Report that there is no shortage of free sex in Miami!

New Orleans: She is selling herself sexually without ever having to stand on a street corner and without getting any money. I want to get to know “Ladies”. I can get to know hos in about five minutes. I am not being stimulated mentally.

New York: Why are single women willing to work hard on their careers but, not willing to put out the same effort in a relationship?

New York: It seems like they don’t want a man. It’s weird to me. “What makes you a woman? What makes you wife material? Why should I marry you?” I am not looking for a friend I am looking for someone to add value to my life. And believe it or not, your sex is not that valuable. Not anymore.

Phoenix: Today’s woman has a foul mouth and a stank attitude.  A lot of females are now trying to be players. They think that they are the MAN!

Phoenix: Women here are unaware of what they want. They like being single but pose themselves to seem as if they are ready for a relationship when they are not! Although they may be beautiful they forget that there are many other women who think like them and a man doesn’t have to stick around and wait.

San Antonio: Our sistah’s think they are entitled to demanding being wined and dined and being taken care of, yet not really bringing what we expect them to bring to the table. Today’s sistah’s can’t make greens, homemade mac and cheese or even fried cabbage.  It’s a sad state and sistahs of today, are in trouble.

St. Louis: I just cannot bring myself to dedicate my life to a woman that is financially irresponsible. If I know that you are not paying your bills to go shopping you are going to get broke up wit. If I take my time to help you budget your money and then find out later that you didn’t disclose all of your debt you are going to cussed out!

Virginia Beach: Single women move to quickly and do not allow men to “court” them. I have found myself on the receiving end of a life story while on the dance floor, in another situation I was asked about my five year plan on a casual lunch date. In both case I “was” interested in learning about each of the women but not so fast. They seemed as if we were on a timed schedule and had to know everything about me at that one moment. The young woman I am dating now took her time and allowed me to approach her. Not only did she take her time and let me lead the relationship, she wasn’t critical of my short comings or differences from the past guys she dated.



  1. Robyn says:

    What about Baltimore MD???

    1. I need to get out to the DMV. My trip out their was cancelled. I miss y’all and I haven’t even been there yet!

  2. M says:

    Houston: We have a problem :)!! “Women expect men to be flawless. They expect a man to be delivered to them on a silver platter.” Houston you hit the nail on the head!! This is so true in today’s world and I have noticed this get more and more increasingly true even in the last 5 to 7 years. Women expect expect expect by they then turn around, think they don’t have to bring a dam* thing to the table and think they can just show up and then start acting all uppity. Women have gotten so rotten on first dates. So many women these days think there has to be this “perfect guy” on a first date and she want’s him to be absolutely perfect on the first date as in (carry on a flawless conversation, not be the lest bit nervous, and if she senses any gasp nervousness or gasp pauses in the conversation) she want’s to get up in like the first 3 min of the date (by the way WOMEN we men took countless hours preparing, deciding what to do, where to go, trying to figure out some of her likes and dislikes to know where to go for our first date) then within like 3 min she wants to get up throw her temper tantrum seriously like a 2 year old, cry and start bitch*** to her girlfriends and stomp off only cause she has this “la la perfectionism” syndrome/disease. It’s no wonder so many men throw their hands in the air and are like seriously scre* it why put so much or any effort at all into a nice date if all she’s going to do is within like 3 min blow up the nice date we spent countless hours preparing in HOPES to get to know her.

    It’s know wonder so many women constantly go home banging their heads against the wall and beating themselves up cause she has this “perfect” la la ideological made up BS she and countless women get from the childhood books and they try and take that BS literally!!! GAWD when will women seriously wake the eff up and get in to REALITY!!!!! We men are NOT GOING TO BE PERFECT NOT EVEN CLOSE!!! Nor are you WOMEN going to be PERFECT!! Men get it that women are not going to be PERFECT!! Women need to wake the eff up and know he is not going to have the “perfect” conversation, he is as well as (both men and women) are going to be naturally nervous on the first, probably second and even third dates. DATING TAKES EFFIN TIME!!! It takes time to get to know each other, hang out with each other.

    Then comes the physical features and women are SO EFFIN HUNG UP THESE DAYS ON MEN’S STUPID HEIGHT!!!!! Gawd men would rather puke than constantly hear single women bitc* about men’s height, he wasn’t this “perfect” height as in he must (no if’s and or buts) must just MUST be at minimum of 6’++ tall!! all the while she’s all of in the range of 5’1 to 5’5. Well excuse us you bit** height is our height!!!! GET OVER YOUR SHALLOW HEIGHT OBSESSED SELVES!!! Yes he might be 5’10 (certainly taller than you even with your dumb a** heels) he might be a GREAT GUY!!! WOMEN QUIT PASSING UP MEN JUST CAUSE OF THEIR HEIGHT!!!! 5’8″, 5’9″ 5’10” men are tall and NOT SHORT!!!!

  3. Will says:

    They want some super dude with a cape. To make all the money, pay all the bills, and let them blow the rest. And when you are not going to let them do that. They retaliate,like child at a store .not getting what they want. The worst of it is the extent of the means they use to get you to get on their game plan . Far to often im seeing good guys loose everything even end up in jail behind these ridiculous games these women are playing.they torcher you because your not that baller they want.when in fact if they would commit to the relationship instead of using the guy as a tool to get to the next so called better guy. They might just find some success in life.sorry bout the typos on my crappy cell,phone.

  4. Kemba says:

    I appreciate the honest feedback but it seems that most of the guys expect a woman to be independent, respect herself ( not sleeping around), bring home the bacon and then cook it.

    Do these guys hold themselves to the same qualifications coming to the table? A man that can cook?? That’s a joke in this day and age. I can cook, clean, make the cheese, eat it, so on and so forth. And what do I expect from my man? Nothing less. Equal Yoke.

  5. Tim says:

    I was married for 24 yrs and we are calling it quits. Man what a different world out there! The liberated woman wants to rule everything. They can’t figure what they want one minute to the next: with a guy one second, with a woman the next.